I’ve been learning a bit about intimacy recently. The different types of intimacy and how important it is to human beings.
When we have a conversation with someone about our day, when we hug or kiss, when we laugh together, when we have sex, when we cry on someones shoulder – that point of connection is powerful.
Sometimes we can be around people a lot without necessarily connecting with them. And if we did, our mood would instantly be improved because our brain releases happy hormones into our body. Not only that, our relationships improve and life generally feels better.
I get it though – especially as a parent of little kids I can feel touched out and just want my own space! I have thoughts of “I’ve got nothing left to give”. But what if we sought connection to fill us up? The kind that triggers all the good vibes?
This week we challenge you to ‘Find Five’. Five minutes of connection with five people you love.
Here’s what that might look like:
- Ask your partner for a cuddle on the couch for five minutes. TV off, kids in bed, no talking required – just physical connection.
- Check in with each of your kids – ask them what they would love to do with you for 5 mins and do it with them (no checking your phone, no mentally planning tomorrow). Maybe have a bath/shower with them one night this week??
- Pick up the phone and call a friend to recall a great time you had together. Remember it with him/her in detail – relive that joy!
Or anything else you can think of that creates connection and a point of intimacy. Experiment with this to see how it makes you feel. I guarantee you’ll get addicted! This stuff is so much more satisfying that chocolate after dinner.